Detaching From What’s Holding You Back

Let’s talk.

Because at some point, we all come face to face with something we have to let go of. A habit. A mindset. A person. A cycle. And no matter how much we’ve gotten used to it… it’s just not growing us anymore.

And listen I get it. Letting go isn’t easy. Especially when you’ve built routines around things that are secretly draining you. Or when your comfort zone has gotten so familiar, it feels safer than the freedom you say you want.

But here’s what I had to learn, and I want you to really feel this in your bones:

You cannot keep holding on to what’s hurting you and expect to heal at the same time.

It doesn’t work like that.

I had to start asking myself real questions.

Why am I still entertaining what drains me?

Why am I making space for habits I said I was done with?

Why am I choosing comfort over clarity, again?

And the answer was simple: I wasn’t ready to detach.

Because detaching meant confronting myself.

It meant setting real boundaries not just with people, but with my patterns.

And, that part? That’s the work.

It’s not just unfollowing or blocking someone.

It’s unfollowing your own self-sabotage.

It’s blocking access to the version of you that tolerated everything just to keep the peace.

When I started detaching, it felt lonely.

But it also felt clean.

Like, my energy got lighter. My mind got clearer. And my spirit? Whew, it started breathing again.

I stopped needing to be needed.

I stopped proving myself to people who never truly saw me.

I stopped repeating habits that had me mistaking productivity for purpose.

Because here’s the truth: everything you detach from creates space for what you’ve been praying for.

But you can’t receive if your hands and your heart are still full of what should’ve been let go.

So, if this is your season of detachment, honor it.

Mourn the old you, but don’t go back to her/him.

Release with love. Let go without bitterness.

Because this version of you? Got somewhere to be.

You’re not being distant you’re being discerning.

You’re not bitter you’re better.

You’re not cold you’re clear.

And clarity is the first step to peace.

“This time, I’m choosing what grows me, even if it means letting go of what once felt good to me.”